How To STOP Giving Your Power Away Today
So many of us give our power away to those around us on a daily basis without even realising it. Especially when we are highly empathic or highly sensitive. We are so enmeshed in other people’s need’s, other people’s pain and emotional need’s. We constantly feed them instead of ourselves, we become the victim.
We hand over our power to our loved one’s, our partner, our family, our friend’s, even colleagues. By allowing others to control, manipulate or push us into choices that are not in our best interest. These situations exhaust us, deplete us, diminish or devalue us.
Some of us even give our power away to our addictions. So many of us constantly dis-empower, dis-honour and dis-respect our self on a daily basis.
Why? Because we have a very distorted perception of our self and the world around us. So we end up creating life-long unhealthy patterns that sabotage our health and happiness on a daily basis. Ironically one of the biggest forms of dis-empowerment is the way we give control over our health to other people.
Are You Giving Your Power Away To Your Dr Or Health Professional?
We often assume that those who look after our health and wellbeing, even our spirituality have our best interests at heart. But every time you hand over control of your body, mind, emotions and or spirit to another person. You are opening yourself up to an element of dis-empowerment. Look at the culture of how we expect our Dr to heal, fix or treat health conditions or symptoms caused by unhealthy lifestyle choices. Here we don’t want to take self -responsibility so we expect someone else to fix it for us. An example where we want to give someone else the power so we don’t have to make changes.
Look at how much power people give away to a psychic, medium or horoscope prediction.
Or how much people give their power over to a coach, healer or therapist. Yes we are here to help, sometimes guide or teach you. But you should never give your power away to us. We are here to help empower you, we are not here to inflate our ego, we are not here to look for validation, in many ways we are not here to be liked. We are here to serve you and do right by you. But sadly there is a lot of misuse of power and even dangerous practice in this area of work. That elevation of ego and power nearly cost me my eye and another cost me serious liver toxicity. I was young, niave, vunerable and I trusted the wrong therapists.
Stop giving your life away to other people.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
Unfortuntately today we live in a society where many people are so focused on being more, having more. They often destroy or dis-empower others in their struggle to appear more special, more spiritual, more awakened, more successful….We have a generation where everyone and their granny seems to be marketing themselves as the most enlightened or awakened spiritual guru or healer. Masses of individuals naively giving their power and lots of hard earned cash away to inflated ego’s that are selling them a lie. Sadly desperate, vulnerable and kind hearted people often fall for the false promises, the miracle cures, instant financial success or instant transformation. Dis-empowerment comes in so many forms of control and manipulation.
So it is important to become more mindful. It is important you start listening more to your own inner wisdom, your inner guidance rather than everyone else’s.
Is That Situation Or Person Enabling You Or Disabling You?
We all learn from each other but we have to recognise when we are not being supported, not empowered. When we are being controlled, when we are being disabled instead of enabled. Being a highly sensitive empath since as long as I can remember. I only began to take my power back after a spiritual experience in intensive care where I was fighting for my life.
Like so many people, so many empaths I didn’t recognies how much of my power I was giving away. I was a full-time people pleaser who gave my power away daily and didn’t even recognise it.
So How Do You STOP Giving Your Power Away?
You get more grounded and centred. When you are more earthed, stable and in your own body and energetic field. You are less likely to be dominated or manipulated by others energy or opinions. This is extremely important for empaths and sensitives who struggle with energetic boundaries.
Learn to meditate, make meditation an important daily practice. Meditation helps’ you connect with your inner wisdom and recognise what is right for you.
Stop making assumptions about others area of skills, expertise or wisdom. Just because they appear to be, suggest or even state never means they actually are. Learn the art of discernment. We often give our power away by simply assuming someone has more expertise, knowledge and wisdom in a particular area. Do your homework
Take self-responsibility for your actions and in-actions. Don’t rely on others to fix, heal, sort or solve situations. Yes we all need a little bit of help at times. But if you need to learn a particular skill, need help to be for example to be more assertive, more confident do so. Do not expect other’s to do this for you.
Do not be scared to ask specific questions if you are unsure about a situation. For example ask a Dr or therapist why they suggest or think this is the best form of therapy. Do not to be shy about finding out more someone’s level of expertise, testimonials of any claims made.
Be clear in your communication, what you need, what you believe, how you feel.
Don’t let someone rush you into a decision you are unsure about. It is okay to say I am unsure about this, I need time to think about it.
Set healthy boundaries as part of your daily routine and you mindset. Especially when you are highly empathic or sensitive, more anxious, stressed or vulnerable.
Be mindful of unhealthy emotional traits, unhealthy thinking patterns. Where in your life are you an over pleaser, over giver, have unfound guilt, the wounded healer…?
Heal your inner child- heal those old distorted belief’s that entrap you into the people pleaser, the over giver, the over nurter. Heal and teach the child who never learned about boundaries, who never learned to self-care.
As Marianne Williamson states in A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles” –
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”
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